A Letter to My Younger Self

Getting older often (usually, hopefully)  means getting wiser. (To that, my wisecracking son would say, "Wow, Mom, then you must be really wise by now."    He would probably follow that up with, "But you look young for your age, usually.")

I've shared many of  the following thoughts with my kids as they grew up.  (Probably much more often than they would have liked!)

Things I wish I could tell my younger self:

  • People are often paying much more attention to how they are coming across, looking, sounding, etc., than how you are looking, sounding, or coming across.  Don't be so self conscious!

  • It's O.K. to choose a career that is more creative or fulfilling than lucrative.  Really.   

  • Life is not fair. At all. (Where in the world did that concept come from anyway?) Life is life, and  often, the most growth comes from the toughest times.  The default life is not the easy life. And that's o.k. Skip the pity-party.

  • DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, base your understanding about medicine or politics or anything important on what you see, hear, or read in popular media.  You often (usually)  have to dig to get the real truth.

  • Be more interested in other people than in yourself.  (I realize this is a variation of Number 1!)  Listen to people.  Don't just be formulating your next sentence while they are talking. 

  • Don't agonize so much over your decisions. Make the best decision you can at the time, and live well with it. 

  • DO NOT stop swimming laps, playing tennis, or racquetball.  Just because you aren't on a structured team doesn't mean you should stop doing those things.  

  • Carmente's Pizza will be closing when you are 31 , so you should have their pizza delivered  more often!


  1. I love the tidbit about the pizza place!! Ah, I've been there.
    And about reading informed news about politics on popular media. No way.
    But my favorite is about not being self-conscious. I've learned that more and more, and on the dance floor!

    1. Yes, my husband and I still talk about how much we miss Carmente's! And, I'm sorry to say I'm still a little self-conscious on the dance floor!

  2. Beautifully said! I feel in a way, that I too take those reminders of what I would say to my younger self if I could, and make an attempt to instill those little life lessons in my three children. I don't know if they appreciate that now, but I think someday, hopefully, they will. I think on some level this is something universal that we all do. My own mother and father gave me similar advice, and now that I am older I can fully appreciate it.

    I love you pizza restaurant reference. I can totally relate to that!

    Have a wonderful day! :)

    1. Thank you, Michelle! We moms are always so full of advice, aren't we? I do believe some of it does sink in for sure!

  3. My favorite is the first one. I've had to learn the lesson repeatedly!

    LOL @ the last one. It speaks to how we shouldn't take for granted, the things that make us happy.

    Great list!

    1. Thanks, Keisha! So true about not taking things for granted. I am still learning that, and I appreciate so many of the little things much more now.


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